Sex is like a Hug

When I told my friend that one night over drinks, she almost fell out of her chair.

“A hug?”

“Yup, sex is like a hug. It really isn’t any big deal to me.”

My friend called her husband and told him what I had said. He asked her who said it and she told him I had said it. He said he thought it was a guy who said it. It sounds like a guy thing to say.

Sex is a physical act between two people. They can love each other, hate each other, love to hate each other, hate to love each other or just straight up don’t give a damn.

Sex is something that feels good and should feel good. If you share your body with someone, it should feel good.

Making love are the little things you do away from sex. The whispers in the morning, the afternoon call to tell them you miss them is the act of making love.

Now I know my definitions of sex and making love are rather unconventional. I am an unconventional girl. Yet, I believe we need to look at relationships in an unconventional way. The more traditional views seem to keep most of my friends, male and female, confused and unsatisfied. How a man is supposed to behave toward a woman and vice versa. Can a woman take, forgive me guys, a mans approach to sex? I have and, I am here to tell you my friends, there is much less heartache.

Instead of trying to figure out what everyone else is thinking and feeling, maybe we should think about how we feel and what we think. I know it sounds selfish, yet how will we ever be able to truly love someone if we do not have self-love first? What I mean is this, to love yourself is to know that it is okay to like sex just for the sex and to make love without having sex. We do it all the time with our children, our parents, our friends. It is the misconception that to make love you have to have sex and vice versa. 

So, tell me what do you do to love yourself?